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… is exactly what I had while reading KILLING US SOFTLY, by Red Dwyer. This is a powerful book with a powerful message. I encourage you to read it. However, you should know it IS intense…
and compelling…

Killing Us Softly
By Red Dwyer
See this book and many others at Redmund Pro

I resisted reading this book at first. Why? For the same reasons we prefer not to discuss our wills, our pre and post death wishes. It sounds depressing. I’ve never had the experience, so I don’t need guidance. These are all the reasons a child will give, and it was the child in me speaking.
I don’t foresee this being something for which I need prepare. And I felt I would be making myself depressed and sad by reading about this woman’s experience as the spouse of a cancer victim.
But from the preface forward, I have felt nothing but enlightened and supported. It has become less important whether or not I’ll “need” this to prepare for similar such life events of my own.
I honestly don’t think I have read a more intelligent and straightforward book of any sort, in any genre. There is a peer (educated) to peer (educatable) dialogue going on between the author and the reader. And somehow, she had the strength and foresight to put into words every aspect of such a life changer as a spouse dying from cancer. I can’t imagine I would ever be able to think of all the things she has, that indeed need attention and decisions. Until I was already in the eye of the storm such an event would bring to my life and those who are a part of my life. Such a time is clearly not the best time to be rational and think critically. Even if I have read the book, I know there will be things defined or spoken of here that may not even cross my mind. So I will keep it for reference. Should the need arise.
But that mattered not, as I measured my progress through this calm, collected journey, related with the best perspectives one could hope for. There are many reasons for that. First, the author is as articulate and thorough as anyone I’ve known in discussing the ins and outs of this particular subject. She has done her research. But it’s more than that. She has the gene that calls her to share her experiences, not for the purpose of sympathy, but to teach, to guide. I have no doubt the author is an old soul, one who has witnessed far more than this woman could ever have in her lifetime now. And with that perspective and objectivity, she is a most capable educator, counselor – labels that go far beyond the role this book can have in the specific situation she writes of in “Killing Us Softly”.
Succinct and complete. There is no fluff. This is the real meat of the subject and she is telling it straight. When the author reminds us to question the medical professionals, especially when their attitude is condescending, or tired of your questions, it makes my shoulders a little straighter, I sit higher and remember how important it is to always come from my center. That place of strength that I have nurtured and fed. That I trust will keep me at my best in times of great stress or pain.
As she explains at the start, this IS so comprehensive because she had the presence of mind to document all of the issues she discusses as they happened or came to mind. I think there are very few of us with that kind of dedication, passion and purpose.
This book is intense and powerful. It is not for everyone. If you are a casual reader looking for a light read, read something else. However, if you are looking for a straight up experience being the surviving spouse of a cancer victim, I highly recommend this book. Or, perhaps if you are a student of human nature, the resilience, the struggles, everyday stuff, compounded by a very emotional situation, this book is for you. “Killing Us Softly” lifted my soul with the realization that we are stronger than we realize, but we must be smart about how we cope. This book can certainly be most helpful in that undertaking.
This book is probably best read in small bits, perhaps a chapter or two at a time. It is organized so well, that by perusing the table of contents, one can find just the situation that the reader might be struggling with now. Perhaps it is learning how to handle the medical professionals. They are knowledgeable, but they are not the ones who must make the decisions. Or perhaps it is the well-meaning relatives and friends, who also might think they know what’s best for you and your mate, child, cancer victim. When undergoing the great trauma, the emotional roller coaster of end stage, we may not be best able to make objective decisions that are best for all. So preparation is key. And knowing what to expect helps keep some of the surprise, and its relative frustration, elements to a minimum.
Finally, the author brings us back with her to her current life, a couple years removed from the raw nature of her emotions and fears and dreams she guides us through within the book. So we understand there is life after cancer. And with guidance and help, any one of us can get through to the other side, as did she.

M3: Writer’s Spotlight: RE-Red

R is for… Red
D is for… Dwyer




Well, you’ve seen the trailer…

and you’ve heard all about it…

and now…
the book (e-book only, at this time – print version soon to be released) IS AVAILABLE AT http://redmundpro.com/book-store/page/2/… either Kindle or Epub format…

and the reviews are starting to come in…
Posted by Lizzie 02JAN13
Format: Kindle/mobi
Price: Reasonable
Recommend to others: Yes
“5 Stars

I have been waiting for Fractal Dreams to be published so I could have my very own book with Janet’s artwork. I never heard of fractals until I visited her blog and I was absolutely in awe of the art she creates. I look forward to seeing all her new pieces, like a kid at Christmas, and at first I am taken in by the colors and try to follow where the design goes, similar to getting lost in another world. I was so excited to see Janet put her art in a book and very pleased with how it turned out. She does an excellent job explaining what a fractal is in terms that I was able to understand even though I am not much of a math person, and going through a wonderful selection of designs and discussing different effects and areas of each. I have seen many fractals since she first introduced me to them, and Janet’s still are some of the most striking and beautiful to me. In addition, she gives them titles that fit the design so well that you instantly see it. Her excitement about her art is infectious and I did try it once but nothing came close to what amazed me about Janet’s art, so I am happy to be a huge fan and visit her sites where her art is featured and now to have a book of my own. The colors, shapes, design and Janet’s enthusiasm make Fractal Dreams one of the books on my books I treasure most shelf.”

NOW, I can offer you, in exchange for you writing a review and posting it on the Redmund Pro website Review Page http://redmundpro.com/book-store/review-form/ a FREE e-copy of FRACTAL DREAMS. Just email me at kppput@yahoo.com and I’ll send you a promo code to redeem for a free e-edition. I only have a few, so first come first served, as they say!!!

Of course, I certainly recommend the print version, when it becomes available. That way you can show all your friends (wink, wink, nudge, nudge)! The price will only be $10 for more than 80 images, stuff about me, comments from some wonderful fans, and a wonderful image on which I’ve written a (hopefully) good definition of a fractal.

So, the waiting is finally over… and well worth the wait!!!

And, not to worry, if it is an e-version you want, you can get one for only $3.00 if you choose not to trade for a review, or miss the opportunity for some reason. Again, if I were you, I might hold out for the print edition (FULL COLOR 9″x6″). On second thought, I’d probably get a few of each, for gifts!!! (Lots of folks check out the e-version, first to see if the print version is worth the measly $10 – check it out!! I assure you, the print version will be WELL worth it!!!)

So I MUST thank you all for your continued support and kind words, without which, I don’t think I’d have had the courage to publish the book in the first place!!!
And a big THANK YOU to all who contributed in any way to bringing this book to reality!!!

Yeah, maybe just a LITTLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


PS: There are several other books on the site for your pleasure, as well. There are two memoirs, “Killing Us Softly” by Red Dwyer and “Girl in the Iron Lung” by Gail Thornton, both of which I have read. I HIGHLY recommend BOTH!!!
There is Lizzie C’s “A Month of Mental Moments”, just like in her blog Running Naked with Scissors!
There are a few books of poetry that will definitely get you thinking. And a few fiction books, as well. One of these fiction books, “Jaberweill Hunt” has one of my fractals (Magic Carpet Parking Lot) on the cover with some extra artwork by Lizzie!
I tell you what – I plan to buy/read all of these books I haven’t yet read. And maybe even get some for gifts too!

WE WILL SHORTLY RETURN YOU TO YOUR REGULAR PROGRAMMING (FRIDAY FRACTAL FEATURE). Thank you for watching/listening to/reading this SPECIAL REPORT from Buddhakat Designs!!!


M3: Writers’ Spotlight
Lizzie C’s blog: Running Naked with Scissors
Gail Thornton: Gail Thornton’s World
Ian M Shaw: Prenin’s Little Page
Raymond Alexander Kukee: Incoming Bytes
Redmund Pro: IS LAUNCHED
Laurie Childree: Odds and Ends of a Wandering Mind

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